Why do people assume you're an asshole?

Why do some people just act like you're a shitty person sometimes? Ok, so since Nick and I have decided we're keeping the dogs and we're gonna do everything we can to get them healthy and happy, I've had to tell the people that offered to take Lulu that we don't need 'em to. I told 'em mom is gonna take them, just b/c I didn't want to say, "Oh everything is magically ok now, I'm a dumbass and I take it back that I want to put my dogs up for adoption!!" So anyways, one person sent me an email that said,

"My suggestion is to try your best to keep your dogs. No one wants older dogs. I have worked with rescue for 25 years and it is getting harder and harder even to place puppies and purebred dogs. The shelters and foster homes are full. If you take your dogs to a shelter they will be put to sleep. All your dogs ask of you is someone to love them. Maybe you will be able to get a job soon and things will look up. I know that your child must come first, but two dogs don't eat much. I have 7 and they eat much less than me. Please reconsider and keep your dogs. They love you unconditionally."

So, first off, she makes me feel real awesome by saying, "everything is full and shelters will kill your dogs." And then she goes on to say, "yea your kid is important, but dog food isn't expensive, so keep them b/c they love you."

NEVER did I say, "we can't buy dog food, we have to give the dogs away." I said that their medical expenses makes it difficult on us to feed the whole house. I just don't know why some people don't read the entire message before just thinking, "oh well you're a shit, let me remind you of what kind of a shit you are."

So I responded, nicely, with the bullshit about mom taking them, but also reiterating the reasoning behind our original serious consideration into letting someone else take them:

"Thank you. Luckily I won’t have to give them away anymore b/c my mother has offered to take them until we can get on our feet. The issue wasn’t just the food, it has been the fact that we can’t get their yearly shots (they’re 6 months overdue), their flea meds (they’ve been out for 8 months now), their heartworm meds (also out for 8 months), or their medication for their skin conditions (which they haven’t had in around 6 months). Their skin meds alone run about $100 a month and on unemployment that paired with everything else just wasn’t going to be feasible. Loving them is wonderful, but I felt like risking their health was cruel. But like I said, my mother has finally agreed to watch them until we get back on our feet, so we’re good. Thanks for caring and I appreciate the advice."

The part I said about "risking their health" being "cruel" is the honest to god truth! I can love them all effing day long - but if I can't afford to keep them healthy, then THAT makes me a shit - NOT trying to place them in a home that can afford to keep them healthy... AND please note that in that response I sent that I did not mention Maya's thyroid condition, for which she has to have $40 medication every month as well, NOR DID I MENTION the fact that she has to go to the vet every month for blood work until we get the thyroid medication dosage correct, and that means that on top of the $40 medication there's a $50 vet visit fee PLUS the $100 blood work fee EVERY MONTH until we get the dosage right, add THAT to the $100 a month for Maya AND Lulu's skin issues and that's pretty damn expensive - so NO, we were not jumping the gun in thinking seriously about putting them up for adoption.

But like I said, we're not going to do it. We just can't. We'll address Maya's thyroid as we can, she'll be fine, she'll just be fat until we can work it out. As for their skin, we'll take them to the vet one at a time as we get the money and we'll do what we can for their skin condition. We may skip their shots, since they're inside dogs, and just do flea and heartworm meds. We'll make due. But that email just rubbed me the wrong way.